Valentine’s day has just passed. I think everyone may have had an enjoyable romantic time.
Today, I would like to share a research result of the 5:1 rule for dealing with a romantic relationship, which means to praise the partner at least five times after criticizing a partner one time.
According to these psychologists, this is the mode of living that keeps a partnership permanently happy.
Your compliments set a new direction for your partner and make you focus on your perception consciously on the positive aspects of your life partner, which creates good interaction between each other.
The principle behind this is:
1. A sincere compliment is a cue that turns our attention to the positive side of the partner. The praise is also a cue to the recipient to reinforce the compliment-related behaviour.
2. The compliment to the recipient is also a verbal gift and make them happy by showing your recognition. At that moment, the subconscious mind of the recipient automatically associates this happiness feeling with the praiser. The recipient will feel an urge to give back by seeing the positive side of the praiser as well.
You may still remember you think how perfect your partner was in your eyes when you were in love! It is because you saw your partner through a beautiful rose glass. Thus, the psychologist advises us it is better to put on your rose glass on your eyes to see the more positive side of your partner in daily life.
Besides, we should always be grateful to our partners for the little things that they did.
Thanks are also the cue that gives more positive support for the praised behaviour, which transfers the message that “you are perceived and valued”. It removes the roots of the argument and improves the relationship overall.
Finally, don’t forget to say those three words: I love you!