You can remember situations that give you positive and neutral feelings in daily life. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by negativity, whether in a relationship or otherwise, think about something feeling neural first, then search for positive memories. This way, you’ll easily slip into a positive feeling. The steps are as follows:
- Closing your eyes and focusing on your breathing, inhaling through your nose and exhaling through your mouth.
- Thinking about the trivial things in life: She or he was doing housework at home, caring for children, trying to make more money for the family.
- Thinking of the happy time when your family was travelling together. You saw yourself smiling, you heard the child giggling happily, and you saw your partner chasing behind the child with a camera. You feel happy in your heart and enjoy it very much!
- Allowing yourself complete associate the situation for three minutes, then open your eyes.
- Seeing you in the mirror, it is you who is smiling.
After doing this exercise, your negative emotions will reduce very much, and you can adapt the tone to tell your partner about your disappointment. It would be even better if you add body language such as looking at your partner with a lovely smile and gently holding each other’s hands, etc.
The body language will stimulate the nervous system to release the “love hormone” — Oxytocin which can strengthen the relationship to become better and better.
The purpose of this exercise is to make you notice that you can consciously generate emotions, and you can also consciously switch from one emotional state to another in a few minutes.
Here’s another tip for you: 10 minutes of intimate hugs.
- Standing face-to-face with your partner and Putting your two hands on your partner’s lower back.
- Closing both of your eyes.
- Listening to your body and feel each other.
- Letting the energy flow inside itself. When the feeling energy begins to flow between you, you will feel that your hearts are uniting as one, and you can feel your love in every cell, and it is a feeling that never goes away.
- Opening your eyes, look at each other, and say: This love will always be here as long as we will!
