In real life, most people do not want to owe favors. When they accept gifts or help from others, they will find opportunities to give back. You may have had the experience at the door of the supermarket. Some people give everyone the products free of charge. Whenever I accept it, I will sincerely say: Thank you.” and I also create an inexplicable feeling of giving back, which drives me to buy more at this supermarket. Social psychologists call these: anticipatory expectations, which means that we act accordingly to the expectations of others. Such psychological activities of shoppers facilitate sales.
In addition, when we feel comfortable physically, we also want to pass this feeling to others. Researchers in the United States found that, especially in the cold winter, when a person holds a cup of coffee, hot tea, hot chocolate milk, they feel the warmth of their body and feel very good. At that moment, people become very generous and willing to give something that even what they want.
People who understand this kind of psychological activity often use the word “compliment” to obtain their own expectations. Whether consciously or subconsciously, “compliment” is always a gift for everyone. Especially, when you sincerely praise someone, it is like a ray of warm sunshine piercing the clouds to make them feel better to change the negative emotions. Usually, they will say: Thank you!
Thank you” is an easy and magical word. This word shows your gratitude to make a person feel respected for the behaviour. Sometimes, even a smile or a nod will be enough to make the other person feel respected. This strategy is helping to maintain a relationship to make life easier. You can try it with your partner to pay attention to his or her behaviour at home.
For example: when your husband is ready to vacuum; when the wife cleans the kitchen; when the husband goes to empty the heavy garbage; when the husband cleans the windows; when the wife takes care of the children; when the husband brings a cup of hot tea for you; when your wife puts the meal on the table, please always say: thank you.
You should pay more attention to anything to be thankful for even if your lover doesn’t do anything, you still can thank for their attention to family members. The simple “thank you” will make your partner feel they have made a valuable contribution and give each other a positive cue. You can also make a ritual to show your appreciation by writing a note and reading it to your partner at a candlelight dinner. You will see a surprise and gratitude face.
When we interact with others to show gratitude for anything they do, it will create positive circles and harmony to make life easier. You will feel happy to improve your health and energy!
